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Why It Is Important to Love Yourself First

by Makeda Waterman
Relationships Self-Esteem Happiness Love

It is common for some people to enter a relationship with the hopes that they will find love and happiness in their partner. While the intention of seeking a casual or long term relationship is to grow with that special someone, if you don’t love the true essence of who you are, chances are the relationship will fail. The unfortunate part about this reality is there are aspects of our society that project that when a person is alone, it is considered a negative reality. When the truth is, there are some millennials out there that take a stand and believe it is better for them to be single, work out their personal issues and find love when self-healing has ended.

The idea of getting into a relationship when you have emotional baggage, you don’t appreciate yourself, or you are unhappy with who you are as an individual will easily find its way into how you treat your partner.

Here are a few ways to work on yourself before you get back into the dating world:

Take care of your mind, body, and soul.

Instead of coming home after a stressful day at work or school, take a warm bath with organic bath salts to clear away mental stress. Speak with a family member or friend about your day instead of keeping the negative energy inside. Your home is your sanctuary, and it is a place to wind down and relax.

Stay committed to your personal health and exercise at least three times a week. You will be surprised how happier you feel. Most importantly, remember that in life there will always be ups and downs. Don’t take life too seriously. It is all about the journey.


Accept who you are as an individual.

We live in a society that projects perfectionism in magazines and television. It is normal to have flaws and imperfections because that is what makes us human. If you didn’t deliver a stellar presentation at work today, pad yourself on the back for taking on the responsibility. It is possible that you need to improve your health and lose a few pounds. When you begin to love yourself, the universe will open the doors to more love, and it can come in the form of recognition at work or family members showing their appreciation for you in their lives.

There will be someone out there that will accept you for who you are, but you must love the skin you are in first.

Pursue hobbies to fulfill your passions.

Most people find it appealing when they know that their partner is passionate about something in life. Whether you want to start a new business, participate in tai chi or travel to a foreign country to volunteer, it will make you feel more satisfied in life. As you participate in a hobby, you will find out new things about yourself you may not have to

know if you did not participate. Life is to be cherished and enjoyed by fulfilling our passions. Take the time to fulfill yours on the weekend or when you have the time in your schedule.

We hope that you practice these tips to create a more fulfilling life. If you can’t learn to love yourself, it can be a challenge to love someone else. It will be fair to your future partner to take responsibility for how you feel about yourself rather than expecting them to make you feel good.


Makeda Waterman is an online media journalist with a passion for helping people succeed in life. Outside of writing for The Huffington Post, she is a writing contributor for Glassdoor.com and Elite Daily. She also runs an online marketing writing business.