“You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously.”
Imagine if you would, an age that is ideal. Think of a time that you could go back to or an age that you would like to experience.
What age would you consider to be the perfect age?
Everyone has these types of thoughts at least once in their life time. During a moment of wistfulness, a person may think about a time in their life that they would like to relive, visit for a time or even forever. Younger age groups may want to be older while the experience of adults will help them to appreciate their youth.
Grandparenting should be the greatest stage in life. It is with the experiences of a life time that one can appreciate all of the minutes in a day. The battles of parenting are few and far between, if nonexistent, and more memories are made. Children, and grandchildren, now seek you out for the advice that they swore they already knew just a few years ago.
The older generation knows how to take advantage of the times that they are in the company of their heirs. There are more smiles, hugs, kisses, and love. Possibly, a little more sugar, too. The memories are cherished when the stories are shared, even if they are those embarrassing ones.
The journey through parenthood allows a chance to reflect on the different ages. Many times this can give insight during those moments that needs a little extra patience to help children muddle through with a little guidance. Parenting is a lifelong practice, no matter the age of the child. It could be considered that parenting a child at a certain age is their perfect age.
Young adults are truly at a time of independence. It is the time of entering adulthood by learning the difference of acquaintances and associates and identifying a career. Friendships are appreciated and love is truthfully an experience. Many people use this time to cultivate deeper relationships with their peers and possible life mates. This time of life is not cherished until later in life. It could be considered that this would be a perfect age only if we could keep our wisdom.
Empty nesters, the parents with children no longer living at home, revel in the peace and quiet of being left alone at home. There are no more practices to carpool, no more homework to review, no more picky eaters, and more food in the fridge. The relationship between parent and child has grown into an adult relationship with more discussions and respect.
The relationship between parents and teenagers can be quite opposite. The feeling of being on a rollercoaster ride is the best description given this stage. Major milestones and emotional changes occur during these years both as a parent and teenager. Everyone’s teenage years are so turbulent it can
make anyone sea sick. Relationships seem to be just a fragile as one’s self esteem, emotions fluctuate almost daily, and every decision appears to be a life changing event.
On the other hand, being a teenager is the beginning of independence. Learning to drive and working for your own money are some of the privileges of this freedom. What a wonderful feeling it is to finally have this chance to spread your wings. Meeting up with friends with just a little mischief on the agenda is the plan for the weekend. Testing boundaries and those uncomfortable conversations keeps everything interesting.
The middle school years can definitely be an awkward time. They are beginning to understand what they like whether through sports, activities, style and school. Children want to exhibit individuality while trying to conform. It is a tricky balance for children in the social setting and hard for parents who are encouraging them to be themselves. More responsibility is given the middle schooler from all sides, school, parents and activities. Children learn to be accountable for their actions. This includes a grading scale that reflects their study habits, penance for inappropriate behaviors and accolades for achievements. This may not be the perfect to return to but the parenting side could not be considered boring.
Reflecting on the younger school age, starting school at age six is a big deal. The bus ride is something that they have wanted to do for forever. Parents are confused about what to feel. Proud that a child is growing up and relief that a child is finally going to school all day while feeling sad that their baby will be gone all day. The kids are still excited to be going to school and may miss it during the summer break. At school they get to hang out with friends all day, learn new things and have play breaks. Teachers are nice, or mean, while the cafeteria ladies seem creepy. The nurse always has crackers and peppermints.
Thinking about a perfect age it is hard to remember being a preschooler. As a grown up, you can assume what it was like to be able to move about on your own and to experience your world. It is a time where cause and effect is a true experiment with everyday things. At this age, a child learns to function independently. The ability to use the bathroom, get items for their own use, and carry on more detailed conversations supports the feeling of being a big kid. Nap time may be optional but quiet time is still necessary.
Toddlers introduce parents to the real definition of staying on your toes. No sleeping on the job during this age. The drawback of knowing what this age group is all about is that you can imagine yourself moving about in those uncomfortable diapers.
Babies are treasured because of their scent, peaceful sleep, and tiny size. The smell of dirty diapers as well as the cleanup is not always a memory to cherish. Parents may miss their children being the precious infants but may not want to go back just to sleep and eat.
Reviewing the separate stages of life may help enlighten the moment. It would be nice sometimes to skip around and visit for a bit just as a reprieve. The perfect age may be different if you could take your present knowledge with you. Keep in mind that you may want to be there again without the stress of the future.