Overcoming Difficult Days

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Overcoming Difficult Days

by Olessia Kantor
Mind Wellness Mindful Bad Day Relaxation

When I opened my eyes this morning, the first thing I noticed was the lack of sunshine in the sky. It was a cold, gray morning with a dull sky threatening rain. My personality and disposition are greatly affected by weather. Over the years, though, I've learned how to cheer myself up and brighten my own world when there is no sun in the sky.

I routinely begin my morning with a contrast shower (this is where you shower in warm or hot water for three to five minutes and then shower under cool or cold water for one minute). I use a citrus scented gel. Not only is its smell pleasant but citrus is a skin firmer and a stress reducer. 

Beginning my day this way activates my brain and sets the pace for my day. For breakfast, a shot of espresso taken with a little spoon of sugar and Bob Marley music complete my armory and I am ready to face not only gray weather but also any other challenges the day might bring.

Today was a particularly rough day. AGAINST my will and my beliefs I had to stand tall dealing with merciless bullies. I have to admit that at some point they succeeded and got under my skin. When I become upset with anyone, it ruins everything I touch after that. I can't work. I can't write. I can't sleep.

It's like that cartoon of a man typing and yelling, "Honey, I can't come to bed right now! Someone is WRONG on the Internet!"

We choose our feelings. When we let other people influence our feelings and emotions we mirror their mediocrity. We mirror their weaknesses instead of choosing our strengths. 

The great actor Morgan Freeman quips, "Let me ask you something. If someone prays for patience, you think G-d gives him or her patience? Or does he give them the opportunity to be patient? If he prays for courage, does G-d give them courage? Or the opportunity to be courageous?"

I have learned that the best way to help others and myself on days like this is to remember that forgiveness, anger, fear and hatred are all feelings that happen inside of us. And should a gloomy day happen, look at is as an opportunity to exhibit strength of character. Mahatma Gandhi put it eloquently, “you must be the change you want to see in the world.”

Be Mindful. Wake up.