“You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously.”
I often write about what it is to be a woman in the professional arena. It’s a topic that’s very close to my heart because of the experiences that not only I, but many of the women I come in contact with, have had. There’s a balance to maintain, expectations that enter a room way before you do. It was not easy for me to be in the diamond industry when my male counterparts would take one look at me and determine I seemed better suited to model diamonds than to evaluate them or arrange for their acquisition.
U.S. Presidential Candidate Hillary Clinton recently discussed this in her feature on Humans of New York. She expressed “I know that I can be perceived as aloof or cold or unemotional. But I had to learn as a young woman to control my emotions. And that’s a hard path to walk. Because you need to protect yourself, you need to keep steady, but at the same time you don’t want to seem ‘walled off.’”
So if a woman who has had a very long, very public career that has brought her to this crucial point struggles to strike the balance, you may wonder how you can. It’s not a simple question to answer. Women throughout different industries experience varying degrees of resistance. Whatever your own experiences might be, here are the two easy steps to striking the balance.
Be True to Yourself. You have to know what kind of person you are and be honest with yourself about your tendencies, your personality, and how you react to certain situations. Self-awareness and a degree of comfortability with yourself is key. Here are some questions you might want to ask yourself in relation to your emotions and their appropriacy in the workplace?
Be Honest With Others.
While professional women have made tremendous strides in workplace equality, the question of emotional visibility and appropriacy in the workplace still exists. It’s best to take stock in yourself as a person and as an employee, analyze the situation, and do what you think is best and most authentic for you as a result.