“You were put on this earth to achieve your greatest self, to live out your purpose, and to do it courageously.”
A dear friend of mine was sitting in her favorite coffee house, treating herself to lunch after a hard week. She had just broken up with her boyfriend, a man who she saw a future with, a man she believed she could really be happy with. And as she sat there, secure that she made the right decision and hopeful she might soon be able to move forward, she spotted him across the cafe with another woman, slightly younger. There was none of that tentativeness that fills early encounters. No, these two were comfortable. They were comfortable in a way that couldn't come about after just a week. That was when she realized that she had been cheated on, if only for a short while. She felt her heart breaking all over again.
Cheating is abhorrent and an incredibly difficult thing to go through. The emotional fallout is incomprehensible to anyone who has not found themselves in a similar situation. It fills you with all sorts of questions like “Why me?” and “Is everyone like this?” It is important to take your time with the healing process before you are able to move forward from such an episode. Here are some tips on how to do just that:
Remind yourself that cheaters are cowards. These are people that cannot address the issues in relationships in fear that they might have to address some issues within themselves. Instead of seeing the truth for what it is, they drag others down their destructive path. It is important that you heal and do not become jaded. Stay cautious, but remember that when you’re ready to love again, you must do so with an open heart, or no good will come of it.